FEMME DOMMES 7
From Tim S:
Dear Elise, it took me a long time to muster up the courage to write this to you. Right now under the direction of my wife, I'm writing to thank you for the changes you have made in our lives. I have always been a closet submissive but once my wife did your psychoanalysis on me, I found myself admitting and doing things I once thought I'd never do. At first I thought it was my sense of vulnerability and humiliation at confessing some dirty secrets to my wife but now I'm beginning to realize it's mostly because my wife is also changing. She is becoming more demanding, methodical and single minded in getting what she wants. And from a husband's point of view, it was tough.
My wife ordered some of your procedures and tried them on me. My initial reaction was shock and resentment. I even scolded her for wasting money on what I initially thought was role-play material. However, even before we got into it, I felt the effects of several major changes in our lives. I found myself doing housework and spending almost all my free time doing chores for her. My wife use to give me oral sex but now for reasons she refuses to give, she rejects violently to any requests for a blow-job. In fact, I risk a slap for even suggesting the act to her now. On the other hand, I used to be squeamish about the way my wife smells and taste so I never went down on her. However in that moment of vulnerability, guilt and shame with my confessions to her during the psychoanalysis, I found myself kneeling before her and placing my lips on her sex. A part of me knew what was happening and yet I felt so secure and at peace touching her intimate part. I think she sensed this and now asks for oral sex frequently.
My wife being 10 years older than me and of shall I say, a more assertive culture and race, used to tease me about being exhausted sexually by her since I was unable to 'get it up' after the fourth time during the same night. After she used the procedures, she started being really verbal where she would humiliate me verbally. I try to tell myself it was just play and acting but her words and tone got to me in the end. You know she really shattered my confidence in my manhood and what I thought of my masculinity. After a while, I started to feel inadequate with my manhood. I became nervous approaching her for sex and fumbled when trying to initiate sex. During another procedure, she told me about this other guy she knew who was well endowed and a better lover, I just broke down.
Another one of your procedures had her show me her dildo which was almost 10 inches to my 6 inches. I realized then that my only hope of really pleasing her was through my lips and tongue. Subconsciously, I started to desire going down on her to the point where I started begging her to allow me to orally service her. Although she allowed me to service her frequently everyday, she made me work hard for it by doing chores, working out, pampering her with massages, gifts, dinners, bubble baths, etc. But whenever I have the urge to kiss her and just make love to her traditionally by penetrating her from the top, her verbal abuse starts and I become so nervous that I even lose my erection.
I'm comforted by the fact that her taunts are never malicious. But my manhood is given no mercy. In fact, every urge I have to initiate penetrative sex with her is now purged. I'm convinced she does not really need my penis to satisfy her. This makes me feel humble and submissive before her. She allows me to reach orgasm only once a week and for the most part, I'm left feeling sexually unsatisfied. The irony is that the harder my erection and the higher my arousal, the higher will be my desire to serve her.
When I apologized for ever refusing to orally serve her in the past and worse being offended by her scent and taste, I incurred her wrath or so I thought it was. I was given a severe beating and spanking on my buttocks and thighs. This became her excuse to spank me whenever her mood was bad. Even though I swore to her that I crave her intimate essence now. I even proved this by begging to serve her all the time, even when she finished her aerobics or evening jog. On one occasion, I did cough and really wrinkled my face in disgust. However that was because we had sex and she asked for me to orally service her after I had come in her. The taste of my seed was horrible. My wife did not accept my explanation and I got a bad spanking again that time. She insisted we did this until I could please her with pleasure. It is really strange that the minute I submitted to her by serving her orally the first time, I gradually grew to crave her scent and taste. Maybe being a submissive man means automatically loving whatever scent and taste his lady exudes.
When she showed me her strap on dildo for the first time, I was shocked. She told me to lie down and put my legs up in the air. I felt uncertain and afraid, as being penetrated in the ass for a man was tantamount to being a sissy or broken man. I told her I did not want to be penetrated but she only threatened to not allow me to service her and I became half hearted. When she straddled my face, facing my feet in a 69 position, I lost track of what was going on as I started licking her. Soon I felt wet slippery liquid and her fingers probing my anus. I wanted to protest but was afraid she would lift her pussy away from my mouth. I soon grew accustomed to her fingers and then it happened. I felt the enormous dildo sliding slowly into my ass. The feeling was excruciating. I felt as if I was being torn open and the sensation of being penetrated was not pleasant. It was like being invaded in my most vulnerable and concealed part. The discomfort even caused me to stop licking her. However I felt her rubbing herself on my face even as she slid the dildo in and out of my ass. As I felt her coming on my face, I felt my insides turning to liquid and flowing out.
After a long while, my wife dismounted and I realized that I had ejaculated on my tummy. My wife started laughing at my discovery. She asked me if it felt so good being fucked by a woman on the face and in the ass simultaneously, that I came. I was of course humiliated by what had happened. However I shocked her and simply told her what I felt then. I said I was happy to be fucked by her on the face and even up my ass because I love and worship her. And more importantly because she enjoyed it. After the words left my mouth, she was stunned for a few seconds before she regained her composure and said " we'll be doing a lot more of that then".
Recently, she showed me the marriage contract and I was so surprised by the details and conditions. She told me to read it after handing it to me. I was aware of the fact that she wanted all my money and future wages put into her account amongst other conditions like surrendering my earthly possessions and waiving rights to sexual gratification. However, I was really not comfortable with consenting to her right to taking on other lovers and pleaded with her to relent on that point. She said she promised not to engage in sexual relations with other men as long as I honored the other points. To which I was relieved. I knelt before her and signed the contract. She smiled and told me to place the contract on the table and bring my wallet and a pair of scissors to her. When I returned, her skirt was pulled up and her legs wide open. I could see her wet pussy and I fell to my knees and just as I was about to touch her with my lips, she pushed my forehead back with her finger and crossed her legs. She said "aren't we forgetting something?" I look puzzled and then she took my wallet and pulled out all my credit and visa cards. She handed me the scissors and watched as I cut them all up. Finally when I was done, she opened her legs and I feasted on her womanhood.
This is by no means an exhaustive account nor is it a perfect account. However it reflects the changes in our lifestyle and mutual consent as well as satisfaction. My wife has complete control over my time, money and sexual release. I could never say No to her and would never even if I could. We no longer have arguments about expenditures, on where to eat, where to go on a holiday, what to do on weekends, what movies to watch...etc. All I need to say is a simple 'yes dear' and let her lead. Things have changed so much that the memory of me trying to ask my wife for oral sex and me finding her scent repulsive seem so foreign and unthinkable! As she grows more dominant, I grow more submissive.
Just for the record, my wife is a beautiful woman who is voluptuous, intelligent and sophisticated as much as she is dominant. I enjoy submitting to her in any and every way possible. I never thought I could be happy kneeling before her and servicing her orally. I'm glad she took the step to change me. Thank you for your indirect assistance.
From Katrina D:
Dear Elise, I want to ask you if this is Female Domination...I am young and a college student at UGA. I am curious as to whether this is really domination? I have an extreme oral fetish. I love to be kissed and licked on my vagina...and I guess you could say it is my favorite sexual activity. Anyhow, the oral fetish goes even further. I am a swallower and I enjoy giving oral sex on a man as well.
I work at a tanning salon and hair cuttery. This really cute guy named Edward started getting his hair cut here and he had all I like...short black hair and tan skin...tall, dark and handsome. He told the girl who cuts his hair that he had a "little crush on me." Anyway, I was working closings and he came in there and I knew he liked me and what turned me on so much was his shyness. He blushed when he saw me and would not look in my eye. He talked really softly and said that he was going to tan. I told him which bed to go use. He came out and I felt really catty and cocky. I kind of said sternly..."come here." He walked really slowly over and I said COME HERE! He did and I said "Now look into my eyes." He did and was blushing. Almost scared.
I said to him, "did you say you have a crush on me." He said he did and I said, do you think I'm pretty? He said he did, and I don't know where this came from, but I had to say. "Of course you do, but you can't have me. I'm too pretty for you."
He just looked like he was going to cry, but I loved it! Then I walked up to him and put my hands down his pants and felt his penis and it was rock-hard! I told him to come with me...I locked up the salon and I lead him into my car and left for my apartment. He kept asking me questions, I had no idea what I was doing, felt crazy, and I didn't answer any of the questions.
I didn't even talk to him though, I told him to come in. He walked in and I told him to take off his clothes. He just turned red and did. Then I scolded him for having pubic hair. He started to talk and I interrupted him and told him I wanted him to take a bath. He went back there and I walked in and took one of my razors and some shave gel. I told him I was going to shave his penis and pubic area, scrotum, etc. When he was done, I told him to shave me. He did. Then I dried him off and told him to go into my bedroom.
He did and I walked in with a bathrobe on. He was laying on my bed, scared. He had an erection and I told him to get up and get on his knees. He did and I walked over and said, "Now...lick me." I told him to kiss my feet and lick his way up my legs, onto my belly and finally down to my nether lips to lick me. I pointed with my fingers where I wanted him to lick and he obliged. I let him do this for some time and I loved the feeling of standing taller than him and watching him service me with his mouth. It was sexually satisfying of course, but it made me feel powerful.
I eventually came and then climbed into bed with him... I asked him if he wanted oral sex. I told him that he was to wait for me to ask if he wanted something. Then I knelt down and took him into my mouth...and finished up on him and swallowed.
I have been keeping him as slave for a few months now. I shave him sometimes as much as once a week and command him to wash and shave me. This is where I question if it is complete fem dom. About once a week I like to give him a blowjob. This is his reward for being good. I bring it up and do it. The way I do it is not what I would call dominant. I prefer to do it on my knees in front of him (Kneeling) so that he can stroke my hair...I give him eye contact. I like doing this and it actually makes me feel dominant and powerful. I also have sex with him, but only me on top. I like to ride him and almost use him as an object. He does what I say. He gives me his paycheck and I give him an allowance. His main job is to take care of me and satisfy me with his mouth.
Is performing oral sex on a man submission? I mean...I love doing this and it makes me feel powerful knowing I have his guy parts in my mouth and he is trusting me with them, and for me kneeling is just a part of it. In part it appears to be a submissive act, kneeling to a man and putting his penis in your mouth.
But I enjoy this. Is this true domination?
From Bernard B:
Hi Ms Elise, I have recently met a woman who just blew my mind. Although she is a matured lady well into her forties, she still possesses the figure to turn heads of even guys in their twenties including me.
Through the occasional porn surfing and literature I've come across, I know that my lady friend is a dominant lady. The thing I don't understand is how a woman who demands, takes all the time from me but promises nothing in return can make me so crazy with desire and lust. To be precise, she has never allowed nor promised sex with me. I don't see myself as submissive but I knelt and even performed oral sex on her whilst on my knees. I've never even done that to any woman on a first date and much less after being told in the face that I would get no release or sex from her! Most times I would be told to stay in the nude while she would be fully clothed doing her own things. This made me feel even more vulnerable.
Actually I have been quite obedient except on one occasion when I merely asked that she reciprocated my oral service. I asked politely but got two hard tight slaps from her as if I was asking such a disgusting and vile favor. She said oral sex is not the same for men and women. She insisted it was an act of love and humility for a man to kneel before a woman to orally worship her. In fact she said that a real man would enjoy the experience of going down on a woman more than the woman herself. Is this true? On the other hand, she maintained that it is an insult and a most degrading act for any woman to even touch a man's penis with her mouth. I don't understand this because she seemed to take interest in seeing me in the nude and touching my penis, making me so aroused all of the time. Obviously she is interested in my manhood right? Although not to suck it. The idea of being dominant is only when you can get what you enjoy right? I thought being a woman would make any lady enjoy masculinity naturally. I mean the feel, taste, smell of a healthy endowed penis must appeal to a woman just like the taste and smell of my friend's pussy makes me aroused and light headed?
One day she surprised me by allowing me to masturbate. She had to go on a business trip and gave me an egg carton with 12 condoms in each section. My task was to fill each condom up by masturbating. The condition being that I had to recorded my voice over a tape recorder saying how much I adore, miss and worship her. All of this had to be completed within 2 1/2 days after which she will return. As I was so aroused, I completed the first three without much trouble. However gradually it got more difficult and all I had was a single fully clothed photo of her to fantasize whilst bring myself to orgasm as instructed. I do not know how but I completed the task. It wasn't perfect as I only produced tiny spurts during my last few orgasms. Even worse was the recordings where my tiredness and waning desire became evident through my choice of words and creativity in my attempts at poetry.
Miss Elise you won't believe what she did when she came back. I showed her the egg carton but she promptly threw it into the trash bin without looking inside. She said all she wanted was that tape to listen to when she was taking a bath and relaxing. I was too tired and shocked to protest. After her bath, I served her orally as I could not even manage an erection. This she noticed and chided me for the lack of virility. For the first time she wanted penetrative sex but I could not perform. I felt quite desperate and useless to the point of crying but then she started to soften and suggested I put more effort in my oral service as that might put some life into my limp penis. It did not make sense to me but in that embarrassed state I complied. Also because I knew my lack of sexual arousal has diminished my sexual ardor in serving her orally. I remember being so proud when my manhood did become erect after a long session of licking her. Although it was more semi erect than erect I was proud nonetheless and even showed it to her. She smiled and said her leash has come to life again!
I really adore my lady friend and often wonder the objectives and intentions of her demands on me. I know she does not like to explain her ways and methods but perhaps it would help me to become a better submissive if I had some clue of what I am supposed to think and react.
From John U:
Elise, I have been reading you pages with great interest. At first I thought they were going to be a bit kinky or abnormal, but a lot of the content seems to be the sort of thing that many couples do, and have brought much happiness and contentment.
When I was about 20, I had a lovely girlfriend of similar age. We were very fond of each other, but for family reasons, she was very scared of getting pregnant, and didn't trust contraception, so for quite a while we used our hands on each other, and I would suckle her beautiful breasts in accordance with her instructions. Strangely, although she was quite skilled with her hands, she hardly ever brought me quite to ejaculation, although she enjoyed her own orgasms from my care. When at last she did let me cum, she told me to eat my own semen from her hand, which was a great surprise to me.
Wanting to become more intimate, after a few weeks of this I asked if she would allow me to kiss and lick her pussy, which she smilingly agreed. Our first such experience was in the back of my Alfa, and as I cautiously explored her slippery folds, she urged me on and guided my inexperienced tongue. As I pushed it into her body as deep as I could, she was very pleased with me. "That's the best yet," she said, so I increased my efforts, wiggling and squirming my tongue as I kissed and sucked at her pussy lips.
We soon established this worship into our relationship, with lots of affection, hugging and kissing. When we went out in the evening, or had an afternoon free, we would often end snuggling naked together, and I was always keen to slither down between her thighs, where I could kiss and lick her deeply and passionately without pause, until at last she would tell me she'd had enough, and draw me upwards. She would reward me with stroking and rubbing of my swollen member, although again, very seldom to my orgasm. This only seemed to increase my love and desire for her, which continues to this day.
I never thought there was anything unusual about our relationship, which developed so naturally, but I was interested to see how it just seems to match some of the stories on your site. She reacts kindly and warmly to a considerate and caring man, but she can be quite tough and forceful if faced with selfishness or lack of consideration.
Some years later, we have met again, and the lively spark is still present between us. Although we have both had more conventional sexual experiences in the past, with our previous relationship still strong in my memory, I want nothing more than to kneel or lie between her gorgeous thighs, and to worship at that lovely feminine shrine until and unless she asks more of me. I still cherish and support her, and need to devote myself to her comfort and happiness.
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